HOW DO YOU KNOW YOU ARE READY FOR MARRIAGE?

How does one know that he or she is ready for Marriage?

There are many things that would help you know I mean we can literally talk about this in Series...but I would just talk about 3.

Any other person can add other points, because they're not necessarily restricted in number.

1. The person has to have a relationship with God. You cannot be preparing for a thing when you don't know the Real originator of what you're preparing for. If you're preparing to go for a wedding (as a real guest, not "attache"), you obviously have to know one person or the people getting married. You can't just carry your bag and go out...because if you get to the entrance your IV may be requested for (which is becoming rampant now)and if you don't know the person or persons, you may not have an IV, therefore you may be embarrassed and would have to turn back. This obviously means you can't be going for wedding that you don't know whose it is, even if you don't have an IV.

Many people want to get married and they don't know the originator(God) of marriage so...why are we alarmed at divorce rates? Like if one sows foolishness, one would reap foolishness & vice versa.It is that simple.

This knowing God I am talking about...is not the type of closeness that you begin to "manufacture" because one brother is coming through, but knowing Him, loving Him because you believe He died for you and you just want to serve him (marriage or not)Having a true relationship with Him that is evident in your everyday life. This relationship with God is Key for Life itself and births the remaining 2points I am about to make.....

This is like a 2 in1(but very connected point)

• You need to find you, understand you.
• Know your temperaments atleast the basics.
• What upsets you?
• What motivates you?
• Which kind of people/person can you work/walk with?
• What are your Biblical views?
• What is your orientation for life generally? Your Career mindset, Business, Finances etc

Know these things, Understand them and know or prepare for what you can adjust or go with. E.g You're a 24/7 career woman....If a missionary comes...Can you two walk together? Or when a man comes and brings another biblical view from what you understand can you adjust, would you? Know and understanding many things about you from temperament test to asking people around you is necessary. Knowing your purpose...why you're here? That is key because that's part of  what you will go back to God to give account for, so it is not just a general topic that many people talk about, it is expedient.

Purpose discovery isn't all at once(it is gradually unveiled)...but atleast know what direction you're headed, write it down. You may not know all the steps or procedures to get there, but you know the vision, you know the 20years vision plan, desire, whatever. You must diligently get a picture if where you're going so that you can know when the person comes...if where He is going is suitable for you. All guys aren't and wouldn't be for you, no matter how good they are just because of this Purpose thing. So its not a, He is saved and speak in tongues, true but your journeys may not align as spouses...Be sensitive to that. Ignoring this part has caused many "unnecessary" heartbreak in relationships. We can avoid this.

LOVE

We have to have grown to a large extent in God's love.

We all know that Love is patient, Kind, not jealous, not self seeking, not proud, keeps no record of wrongs etc

It never gives up, is always hopeful,endures through every circumstances etc

                                                               

Very sweet to recite and quote...

However you should have a great measure of  Love and the fruits of the Spirit working in you

Gentleness, meekness, self control etc(Galatians 5.22)

All these things we must have been building with those around us....we are not perfect, but if we want to have the God kind if marriage, this scripture was put there for us to practice and live out not just read and feel good.

Love and living out genuine love is important because there would be challenges, rosy times, rough roads and smooth roads...to make your journey a complete one....it is a whole journey...Jesus told us to cheer up(rejoice) that we have overcome the world because we have him....when tribulations comes...He never said that there wouldn't be tribulations.

In those times when there are tribulations, resting in God and most importantly Love is what can hold(bind) everything together. (Colossians 3.14)

So you wanna prepare for a marriage with a difference....

Prepare and enrich your love walk and that can never be accomplished without Point no 1.

Contributed by Nkechi Chiazor

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