A friend has been dating a guy for 2 years now. At the beginning, the guy was the one truly in love but along the line the lady fell seriously for him. Now that she’s totally committed, the guy is threatening to end the relationship because she’s refusing him sex. She is depressed now and doesn’t know what to do. What should she do?
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I said I was going to finish up this question. So, this is the concluding part. If you want to read the first post, read it here
There is a story told in the Bible Ammon and Tamar 2 Samuel 13. This guy desired this Tamar lady sexually up to the point
that he was looking haggard and perhaps depressed. (In my own interpretation, as
if...if he didn't lie with her, he will just die). You know what? He did lie with her...he only did it
forcefully(rape) but you see his main point was sex and the bible says that "he hated her with intense
hatred"Just the next verse after the "so called do or die
sex"
I use this scripture as a practical example that this sex thing
people are running after...there is a reason God keeps saying we should keep it. Immediately you give him, you start to lose
value in the sight of the boy.
2sam13:16-18 says that he sent her out of his sight. He would start changing gradually. Ask people. Ask anyone
that's ready to tell you the truth. Besides this verses I just shared are practical and real life examples...not
just a story in a big book. So please I believe this point has passed its message.
Any man that will be your head (husband) must earn your
respect/ honour by the value and respect he gives to your 1st head, Jesus and to You.
Remember Jesus honoured God and valued humanity and the
church (obviously He died! What other way to show value? ) Husbands are to love
their wives that way. No stories. (Ephesians 5.25)
If He doesn't value you now...he is not going to start
valuing you when you go naked before him. You're only to be naked and unashamed to one
person and that person has to be the one that God has ordained and seal with
and for you. Gen 1.25
Finally, I love you; I love you, I really do...My love for you is_____
What is Love? Love is patient,Kind, Doesn't envy, it doesn't boast, it's
not proud, it's not rude, it is not self seeking, it is not easily angered,
keeps no record of wrong, doesn't delight in evil, rejoices with the
"Truth", Always trusts,
hopes, preserves. There's no true love
that is self seeking. So the guy...just wanting to gratify his own flesh..says
he doesn't love her, he just and she just thinks he/she does.
Most importantly no "True Love" can ever be
outside Christ.
Please once your Relationship isn't giving you
"Righteousness, Peace&Joy in the
Holy Ghost"...Please...just...just sign out...even of its not giving you
all, it must give you at least one of this. Please she needs to leave. She's depressed because she thinks
she has built her life with him what else can she do? She will only get the
truth when she is ready and opened to let go of barriers and him. It's Only Jesus that you can leave and your life will be
shattered, no human can shatter your life...Jesus built it and it stays solid
for ever.
"Only things done for Christ will last"
As she leaves him she will begin to discover her true worth
and value and enjoy pure joy.It will be hard...but this too will pass and as
she keeps looking up to God, her face will continually be brighten She will
never be ashamed.I promise.
And of course counseling sessions will help her heal, cos she
will hurt, but she will survive. She should keep praying for the guy as her brother but may
not need to have any physical meeting with him after the break up...for a
while, Wisdom is profitable to direct.
I believe that this and all that has been shared earlier
will help her greatly.
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Contributed by Nkechi Chiazor
Send your questions to wondiva2015@gmail.com
Contributed by Nkechi Chiazor
Send your questions to wondiva2015@gmail.com
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