MY GUY’S SURNAME IS MAKING ME UNABLE TO PRAY

You are asked to go and pray about a guy and later hear his surname which discourages you from praying. What do you do?

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Surname shouldn't be a big deal.

You and Your husband to be are forming another family, so changing name if you two agree can be easily done.

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HOW DOES BEING INDEPENDENT MEAN SELFISH?

I would like to know how being independent translates to mean that one is selfish.

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If we have the right mindset from start, this would not be a question.

The “me myself and I” thing from singleness is what people carry to their marital home and expect some magic to take it away. So the answer is don't have the *mentality* whether you're 30 and unmarried or 45 and unmarried.

CAN I DATE MY EX’S BEST FRIEND EVEN AFTER BREAKING UP A LONG TIME AGO

Is it proper to date one’s ex’s best friend after they have broken up for years.

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Well I wouldn't talk too much here as this i believe needs a straight forward answer.

*After years*

If that Ex's best friend happened to be your own spouse? What if He has been the one but you just decided to not be sensitive therefore you went round and round and still came back to him?

IS ONLINE DATING/MARRIAGE A BAD IDEA?

What’s your take on online dating? Can you get married to someone you met online? If yes, state your reasons and if no, state your reasons.

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Misuse of a thing is what we call *abuse*

The Internet can actually be used greatly or abused. The problem why there's so much hatred for online meeting is because of the abuse by the people involved.

How can you meet someone online and begin to think that they love you just like that?

That's the problem. You can meet, date and get married without trying to get to know each other face to face for one year at least.

I'M UPSET AT THIS GUY WHO KEEPS LYING UNNECESSARILY AND TRYING TO DOUBLE-DATE WITH ME. WHAT DO I DO?

There is this guy I met in service year. He was asking me out for a while but I didn't take him serious because he jokes a lot. After a while, I noticed he and another lady I know were kinda too close beyond normal friendship but he kept asking me out. I shunned him. After service year, he proposed marriage to me and asked me to pray about it, I refused to cos I told him He was in a relationship with the other lady, he denied it even till on Saturday . Just yesterday, I confirmed from the lady that they're in a relationship, she said they were.

Now, I'm upset at the whole deceit game the guy has been playing.

What should I do?

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First, you have to make sure that you don't allow yourself to breed hatred on your inside no matter what [according to 2Cor 7.1] or contaminate you

At this point, you can do the following…

IS IT GOOD/NORMAL TO FLAUNT ONE’S PARTNER ON SOCIAL MEDIA

I would like to know if it’s good to flaunt one’s partner on social media. And when I say partner, I mean partners in a relationship and not married partners.

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On this topic or question, it really depends on what you and your partner value and see as priority. Before Social Media came especially I.G., people have been surviving in relationships. So with or without it, relationships will rise and relationships will fall.

I am just trying to say...this is one of the topics that we cannot necessarily give a one way answer to. 

CAN I REALLY DO THIS JOB WELL AND HAVE A LIFE?

This is the question many people ask on a daily basis.

A growing trend in today's workforce puts a greater emphasis on living a successful, happy life versus simply achieving success at work.

So the question is, how do ladies (single, married) effectively balance work and personal life especially when it causes problems, conflicts, guilt, and tensions both at work and at home? Both job and family, --- from commitments to family, church and so forth - the pressure to do it all and do it well is strong in our society.

How are we expected to cope in the midst of all these and not compromise?

HOW CAN ONE BE FREE FROM GETTING HURT EMOTIONALLY? PART II

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So, I decided to do a second post for the question in order for us to see it from another perspective.

The question is still, "Can someone be free from getting hurt emotionally?"

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You are in a relationship or you have been in several relationships, from one break up to another.

This part you have to do the work of being sure and being patient before saying yes to a guy. This is because if a girl is getting hurt severally, it is because she is also entering several relationships, which is absolutely unnecessary.

So what to do?

HOW CAN ONE BE FREE FROM GETTING HURT EMOTIONALLY? PART I

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Can someone be free from getting hurt emotionally?

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First of all, I’ll like to say, “Expectation (from humans) can be the mother of all disappointments.”

You are not in a relationship, but guys keep coming around, whatever the case is, I know it can be hard and it is easier said, but it can be done. Try not to expect too much from someone that has said and have shown too little. A hug isn't equal to he wants to marry you and all those funny things that the Internet portrays as signs he likes you or whatever. 

Do you know a Hug is not equal to "I want to marry you"?

HOW LONG DO YOU WAIT FOR THE SPIRIT OF DISCERNMENT FROM GOD

How long do you wait for the spirit of discernment from God?

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The gifts of the spirit are available to us all and if we truly seek it, we would find it.

Desire it: Desire it like you desire to wake up to see the next day. While desiring it, make sure that your motive is right. 1. Cor 12 verse 7. The Gifts are given to us we can help one another, if that's your true motive as you desire it you will get it fully as Christs gives you.

IS IT RIGHT TO SLEEP ON THE SAME BED WITH SOMEONE YOU AREN’T MARRIED TO?

Is it right to sleep on the same bed with someone you are not married to? Like you are dating and partner asks you to sleep over not with the intention of having SEX though.

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Anything could have happened. It is right that we focus on "the reason" for that decision.

What really happened and was that the last option?  Truth is everyone needs to know their body, but if there are other options before this please make use of those options so that it doesn't look like you have been "itching to smooch" and you just found the perfect excuse.

I will close with this example of mine.

MY BOYFRIEND WANTS TO STAY WITH ME FOR THE NEXT 6 MONTHS BECAUSE HE’S HAVING SOME TROUBLES. SHOULD I ALLOW HIM?

Is it possible to live in the same house and sleep in the same bed with your fiancé for close to 6 months and claim nothing as ever happened between you guys? And is there any circumstance where it is ok for you guys to live together without being married? E.g the landlord chased the guy out of his house and there is no money to rent another house.

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That it is wrong is the *straight truth*. I already answered most of this in my previous answer.

Landlord chased him out; He has to look for somewhere else. You can help him for a night because I am being as practical as possible here

And I put some conditions for a situation like this. You can read it in this post here

But you see after that "night of shock" there has to be a solution in the morning.  

IS IT LOVE OR LUST?

How do you know when someone loves you or lusts after you?

COULD SOMEONE JUST TELL ME IF LADIES PUTTING ON TROUSERS IS RIGHT OR WRONG? PART II

This is the concluding part of the post about trousers.

If you missed it, read it here...

This is the concluding part of the question: “If putting on trousers outside church or any Christian gathering is the right thing to do, then why is it frowned upon when worn to church?  OR Does it mean my putting on trousers and sitting down on the altar make the altar unholy?”

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If you missed the first part, read here

Now having read and understood the first part, I am going somewhere. It is obvious that God isn't talking about the kind of trousers that women wear today.

1. They didn't exist in those days

2. These trousers are made for women!!!

COULD SOMEONE JUST TELL ME IF LADIES PUTTING ON TROUSERS IS RIGHT OR WRONG? PART I

If putting on trousers outside church or any Christian gathering is the right thing to do, then why is it frowned upon when worn to church?  OR Does it mean my putting on trousers and sitting down on the altar make the altar unholy?

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I have divided the post in two parts in order to ensure that I cover all that I believe should be covered.

Since it's a church setting let me start with what she may have had in mind