SHOULD A LADY OPEN UP TO A GUY ABOUT HER FEELINGS FOR HIM?

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You have been friends with a guy for about a year and along the line you happen to develop feelings for him. Do you think it is proper to open up to him?

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Opening up to a guy or not opening up to him is not a big deal. The real deal is why do you want to open up to him? Is it because you want him to like you back? Or is it because you want him to notice you and ask you out?

Truth is, it is not pride or “forming” like it may be called but I would not advise any lady to be the first to open up to a guy. What if you like another one the next year again? Will you open up to that one too…and others that you will develop feelings for along the way?

I know of a lady who liked a particular guy (although he was in a relationship). She never opened up to him and kept doing her purpose. All of a sudden, he started taking interest in her and they were even doing purpose together (I am not saying that doing something similar is compulsory). Today, they are married. She only revealed the secret when they got together, not before.

I know that as ladies, we are emotional beings so we tend to think we must open up or we would burst. This is not necessary! Thing is, if the guy is for you then he is for you. If he isn’t for you then there’s nothing opening up can do about it. Developing feelings for someone is not a bad thing, but opening up is not necessary most of the times. You can only open up if the person asks you sincerely and explains properly what the reasons for asking are.

Finally ladies, we don’t have to be all over the place for a guy because of our emotions because that guy may not be the right guy for us. Most of us have seen how guys ignore those girls that are all up in their faces and go for the ones that are quite minding their respective businesses and purposes. So please learn to control your emotions and don’t let your emotions control you. Always remember your value and worth. You are far above rubies. And soon you would watch your own King that belongs to you come take you into his kingdom, at the right time, right season, and most importantly with the right motives.

Thank you for listening...

Contributed by Nkechi Chiazor

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