AFTER 2 YEARS OF RELATIONSHIP, MY GUY IS THREATENING TO BREAK UP WITH ME IF I DON’T GIVE HIM SEX. I LOVE HIM AND IT’S MAKING ME DEPRESSED. WHAT DO I DO? Part II

A friend has been dating a guy for 2 years now. At the beginning, the guy was the one truly in love but along the line the lady fell seriously for him. Now that she’s totally committed, the guy is threatening to end the relationship because she’s refusing him sex. She is depressed now and doesn’t know what to do. What should she do?

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I said I was going to finish up this question. So, this is the concluding part. If you want to read the first post, read it here

There is a story told in the Bible Ammon and Tamar 2 Samuel 13. This guy desired this Tamar lady sexually up to the point that he was looking haggard and perhaps depressed. (In my own interpretation, as if...if he didn't lie with her, he will just die). You know what? He did lie with her...he only did it forcefully(rape) but you see his main point was sex and the bible says that "he hated her with intense hatred"Just the next verse after the "so called do or die sex"

HE ONCE ASKED ME OUT AND I SAID NO AFTER FINDING OUT SOME THINGS. NOW HE’S ASKING MY FAVORITE COUSIN OUT. WHAT SHOULD I DO?

My favorite cousin is dating a guy that once asked me out and I don’t like him. I think he’s pretending to love God because my cousin does. He did the same with me. I don’t know how to tell her.

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First, you must examine the motive for telling your cousin. Is it because of Jealousy, is it to get back at him, or is it out of genuine love for your cousin? Once you are certain that your motive is out of genuine love to see her grow and be happy in life, please tell her, except your motives are otherwise.

IS IT COOL TELLING HIM ABOUT MY PAST IMMEDIATELY I SAY YES TO HIM OR SHOULD I WAIT A BIT?

You just said yes to a guy; is it cool to tell him about your past immediately or you tell him along the line?

IS IT IMPORTANT FOR A LADY TO HAVE PUBLIC SPEAKING SKILLS?

Is it important for ladies to have adequate knowledge on public speaking and if yes, why and how does one go about it?

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In Colossians chapter 4 verse 6, the Bible says we need to be pleasant and hold the attention of your audience when you speak. And it also urges us that we choose our words carefully and be ready to give answers to anyone who asks questions.

SHOULD I LIVE WITH MY NEWLY WEDDED HUSBAND IN HIS PARENT’S HOUSE?

His parents have this very big house like a Palace and only his mother leaves there with him because he’s the only son plus his mother is very old.

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I know of a guy that used to stay in his parent’s house when he got married. What actually happened was that he got the girl pregnant and had to marry her because he wasn’t ready. Until we stopped working together, he was never so happy about it.

MY RELATIONSHIP IS UNDER PRESSURE BECAUSE OF MY MOUTH ODOUR

A guy loves everything about a lady except for her breath. They’ve been in the relationship for some months now willing to move the relationship to the next level but he’s not always comfortable with her mouth odour whenever she talks. How should he handle this?

Should he make it known to her in order for her to find means of getting rid of the odour or let her be and look for another lady who he would be comfortable with?

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This is really not difficult but I believe because of emotions he has for the lady, he may be finding it difficult. However, “Love rejoices in Truth”. 

So he has to tell he and she will understand because she loves him and knows that her husband cannot cope with a smelling mouth. A mouth order can be worked on and gotten rid of so he shouldn’t hurriedly break the relationship off. There are more important things to a relationship than Dressing, Smell, Size and all. Those things are really petty and should not be a problem at all.

SHOULD A LADY OPEN UP TO A GUY ABOUT HER FEELINGS FOR HIM?

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You have been friends with a guy for about a year and along the line you happen to develop feelings for him. Do you think it is proper to open up to him?

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Opening up to a guy or not opening up to him is not a big deal. The real deal is why do you want to open up to him? Is it because you want him to like you back? Or is it because you want him to notice you and ask you out?

Truth is, it is not pride or “forming” like it may be called but I would not advise any lady to be the first to open up to a guy. What if you like another one the next year again? Will you open up to that one too…and others that you will develop feelings for along the way?

IS IT GOOD FOR A LADY TO SHOW MORE LOVE IN A RELATIONSHIP?

My question goes thus: “Is it good for a lady to show more love in a relationship”?

HOW DO YOU HANDLE MEN WITH ANGER ISSUES?

What do you do to men who have serious anger management issues?

WOULD YOU ENCOURAGE YOUR BROTHER OR MALE FRIEND TO MARRY A LADY WHO CANNOT COOK?

So your brother walks into the house with this very beautiful and good-looking lady. She’s godly, caring, polite, and has got a good behaviour but doesn’t know how to cook.

Should my brother be encouraged to marry this lady especially knowing that he loves Food.

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So before you even take her home, she should learn to avoid any form of unnecessary talk and all. She can learn cooking of all kinds at a reasonable period and price too.

Let her just learn ontime before the whole family finds out  after all they would still court before introduction right? 

SHOULD A GUY ASK A GIRL IF SHE IS A VIRGIN?

When a guy asks a lady if she is a virgin, what could be going on in his mind or could it be that he is just curious?

IS IT OKAY FOR A PREGNANT LADY TO HAVE A CHURCH WEDDING WITH THE PASTOR JOINING THE COUPLE TOGETHER IN HOLY MATRIMONY?

                                              

Please I would like to know if it is biblical for a pregnant lady to have her wedding in the church with the pastor joining them together in holy matrimony.

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No....there's no where in the Bible that says its okay for a Lady to have sex or get pregnant before marriage, In fact, this is what the Bible says about this Issue.

"Hebrews 13:4: Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral."

It is glaring. No comma, no stammering, no long talk.

The challenge is that there is no difference between the one that has big tummy and the one that just did it that night before the wedding. The only difference is that one's own is obvious, while the other person's own is 'coded'.

AFTER 2 YEARS OF RELATIONSHIP, MY GUY IS THREATENING TO BREAK UP WITH ME IF I DON’T GIVE HIM SEX. I LOVE HIM AND IT’S MAKING ME DEPRESSED. WHAT DO I DO? Part I

A friend has been dating a guy for 2 years now. At the beginning, the guy was the one truly in love but along the line the lady fell seriously for him. Now that she’s totally committed, the guy is threatening to end the relationship because she’s refusing him sex. She is depressed now and doesn’t know what to do. What should she do?

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I am going to be as real as possible, because theories wouldn't solve this. But first, this sister should be rejoicing that he is showing himself now and he didn't do it after 5 years of the relationship or in the marriage. Any guy that will not respect your body doesn't respect God. I already established here earlier that our bodies are not our own especially if you're in Christ. So a Guy that doesn't get that, doesn't know that you're not fully His, Until Christ gives you to Him first of all doesn't know God then doesn't understand what marriage is about or even what it means to be a "Man" in a relationship.

We still gave example here of how a man left a Woman after marrying her and having sex...So where am I going to...

I LIKE TO SAVE AND SPEND WISELY BUT MY FAMILY MEMBERS LOVE TO SPEND LAVISHLY AND WANTS ME TO JOIN THEM. HOW CAN I DRAW A LINE?

What do you do when your family members aren’t really keen on saving money? They spend at the slightly thing and buy so many unnecessary things but you like to save a lot. How does one handle this type of situation?

A LADY HAS THREE GUYS SHOWING INTEREST IN HER. HOW CAN SHE CHOOSE RIGHTLY?

A lady currently has 3 guys who have said they are interested in her and they love her. Please how can she choose rightly?

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Well, to be straightforward and blunt, if a gun is pointed to her head to choose one, she definitely will make a choice. However without that extreme measure, the lady should be guided by the one that is Vision-driven and also sees her Vision together with his.  And his Vision should be rooted in God and belief in Jesus Christ. What I mean simply is that he should be saved.

ISSUES ON PARENTING

What are the goals for Parenting (both in a Christian and Secular world)?

What are the effects of Bad Parenting?

At what age should we start discussing intimate issues with our children (Intimate issues here mean Sex, Self-Esteem etc.)

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Parenting goals should be to raise up children for Kingdom Purposes. Raising up children to fulfill their purpose here on earth and always recognizing that you –the parent- are privileged to be the children’s manager here on earth. As a parent, you must recognize and understand that God ultimately holds your child’s life. Parents should train up their children in godly ways so they can release them to God.

HOW NOT TO INDULGE IN IMMORALITY IN A RELATIONSHIP

How can you avoid Foreplay?

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First, you must understand why you don’t want to do it. Without an understanding, one day a thought would captivate you and you will succumb.

IS IT OKAY TO HAVE FOREPLAY IN A RELATIONSHIP?

I never had a relationship until my NYSC. In school, I was a critical, judgmental, and spiritual person –or so I thought. When I went for my Youth Service Corps, I met this cool dude, handsome, intelligent, and a lover of God. He just swept me off my feet. I was head over heels in love with him. We started off quite strong but along the line, we started fore play –kissing, smooching, caressing, necking, pecking, cuddling, and all the sexual activities. You know I was so blinded by the fun that afterwards we will apologize and cry, feeling remorse for what we had done but we still did it again and again. You know the sad thing? He were both Executives in the fellowship and we were doing these stuffs in the family house. It was so sad! But by the help of the Holy Spirit, I broke up with him because sincerely  the guy had issues and I just wanted to make things right with God. He was my first love so I was so enmeshed in the ill relationship.

DO I FOLLOW GOD OR MY PARENTS?

A lady is 21 and a graduate. She believes that God has called her to a particular purpose but her family is kicking against it because it doesn’t relate to her course of study. What should she do?

WHO SHOULD CALL MORE OFTEN, THE GIRL OR THE GUY?

                         

Someone asks that who should call more often in a relationship, the girl or the guy?

DOES EVERY MAN OR WOMAN HAVE HIS OR HER OWN PRE-ORDAINED AND PREDESTINED SOULMATE?

Is there a pre-ordained man for every woman and vice versa?

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No.

God leads you according to His spirit and the man gets someone that's like-minded like Him. The man gets His Help meet "suitable for him" while he is loving God and doing his purpose.

HOW DO YOU KNOW YOU ARE READY FOR MARRIAGE?

How does one know that he or she is ready for Marriage?

HOW DOES A WOMAN ACHIEVE BALANCE IN TODAY'S WORLD?

How can a woman achieve balance in today's world? How can she balance Family, In-Laws, Work, School, Boyfriends, Societal Expectations etc?

As both a single and married woman, how can one focus, succeed and be happy all at the same time?

I HAD SEX WITH MY BOYFRIEND TO BRING HIM TO CHRIST. IS IT RIGHT OR WRONG?

A guy proposed to a lady and the lady accepted but said no sex unless the guy becomes born again. The guy also said if only the lady will allow him to sleep with her, he will give his life to Christ. The lady gave him a chance to make love with her. From that day, the guy became born again. Now the question is: Has she won the guy’s soul to Christ? Did the girl sin? Should we have sex to win souls for Christ?

HEY LADY! COME SEE YOURSELF THE WAY GOD SEES YOU!!

I believe -and I know a lot of people will agree with me- the reason why most Ladies why many ladies tend to misplace their worth and value is simply of this quote I am to write:

"You cannot find something when you don't know what you are looking for"

I trust most people can relate to this. Basically, one cannot go through this life without finding yourself, getting to understand what you are supposed to do and how best you are to do it. Many times ladies are chasing external things rather than looking inwards. Truth is, you can't keep chasing shadows.

A lady must map out her Identity, Purpose, and Future by knowing the following:

1) Define what you want out of Life
2) Focus on your goals
3) Prioritize

Every lady that wants to become all that she needs to become must be intentional and purpose-driven

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