HE WANTS TO BRING HIS MOTHER TO “STAY INDEFINITELY” JUST 2 WEEKS INTO OUR MARRIAGE. I THINK I’M ABOUT TO LOSE MY MIND. WHAT DO I DO?

How will you handle a situation where your husband makes a proposal to invite his mum over to stay with you both (with no specific time of returning) barely two weeks after your wedding?

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Hmmmm…… I am glad the topic says "proposal", not that she has already appeared to the house.

I HAVE A SECRET. I WANT TO REVEAL IT AND I DON'T WANT TO REVEAL IT COS I MIGHT LOSE HIM. WHAT DO I DO?

Is it good to reveal ones past to her fiancé all in the name of being sincere even when you know there's an 80% probability of him leaving you?'

What I mean is that I am already in the relationship but there's an assurance he will leave because of my past which I want to reveal to him. However, I need to tell him to build trust and sincerity in your relationship.

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Transparency is going to be one of the top feature of a flourishing relationships whether marriage or friendship kind of relationship.

Having established that, you cannot withhold information from someone just to keep them, that's very wrong especially when they're already in the pre-marriage stage.

Tell him all, because you love God and want to do what's right not because of any earthly reason at all.

AS A LADY; CAN I STILL GO OUT WITH MY MALE FRIENDS NOW THAT I’M IN A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP? Part II

This is the concluding part to the question of if a lady in a serious relationship can go out on casual “nothing-attached” outings with her male friends.

You can read the Part I here

So…here goes the concluding answers

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I mustn’t forget to add that if there's no special thing happening e.g. birthday, anniversary, meetings etc. You have no business saying yes to just a "casual date". I am just reiterating that your boyfriend is capable enough and you should be busy with God's purpose. If these two things are intact, you can't –I promise- have time for "once in a blue moon casual outings without purpose"

DID GOD COMMAND LADIES TO USE SCARVES TO CHURCHES AND RELIGIOUS PLACES? PART I

This question is about whether or not it is mandatory or has been commanded by God for ladies to use scarves or cover their heads to church or any Christian gathering

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To be honest I didn't know how I was going to start this topic because it is broad, I mean very very broad, so I would actually only be scratching the surface today as this teaching has many parts that 

we can actually explore as time goes on here in the WONDIVA community.

So the basics

1 Corinthians 11:5

“And any woman who [publicly] prays or prophesies (teaches, refutes, reproves, admonishes, or comforts) when she is bareheaded dishonors her head (her husband); it is the same as [if her head were] shaved.” (THE AMPLIFIED BIBLE)*

MY HUSBAND IS REJECTING A WEDDING GIFT GIVING TO US BY MY EX? WHAT SHOULD I DO? THE GIFT IS A CAR!!

Your Ex gives you an expensive car as a Wedding Gift and your Husband says he doesn’t want the gift? What should I do?

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The man is now her head; at least the term uses "Husband" so If he says No it is No.

Besides for that gift to be collected, the guy giving the gift should or would have to be the Husband's friend so that it is like a family acceptance and a family gift. Because like it or not, men have Ego and no man wants to genuinely see "another man" buy his ‘baby’ a car let alone an Ex that's even worse.

I’M NO LONGER COMFORTABLE AT MY JOB ‘CAUSE MY MARRIED BOSS IS ‘LIKING’ ME. I DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO. I DON’T WANT TO QUIT MY JOB BECAUSE I LOVE MY JOB.

I know a lady. She just got this job and her boss is extremely nice. According to her, his niceness is too good to be true. She has never had a bad day working there. Recently it happened that the boss kind of asked her out. She politely said No and he said no problem cos he's a married man. Now, the problem is that she doesn't feel as free as she was before he asked her out. And she also doesn't want to quit cos she loves her job. What do you guys think?

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Sadly this whole married boss affair thing still happens and I empathize with the lady. I understand when she says she isn't so free anymore...I mean it's just weird...

Working with someone you know likes you yet is married. Doesn’t get “weirder” than that, does it?

AS A LADY; CAN I STILL GO OUT WITH MY MALE FRIENDS NOW THAT I’M IN A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP? Part I

I am now in a serious relationship. So, can I still go out with my male friends? As in, just normal hanging out with nothing attached..

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You're in a serious relationship, I'm not talking about relationship that doesn't have head and tail (you shouldn't be in one without head and tail anyways)

1. It’s all about your heart & motives

2. It's all about the purpose of what you're doing. For if there's no Purpose, misuse & abuse is inevitable

  

There is more but I want to make what am saying short and straight forward. So with those 2 points, I speak…

WHEN SHOULD AN ENGAGEMENT RING BE RECEIVED FROM A HUSBAND-TO-BE?

When should a lady receive an engagement ring from her husband-to-be?

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She should receive a ring as soon as he is ready to get married to her. So sometimes, people are wearing engagement ring for 2-3 years due to different situations best known to them.

IF GOD IS LOVE, WHY DID HE LOVE TO SHED BLOOD IN THE OLD TESTAMENT

In the Old Testament animals were slaughtered to make sacrifice to God as burnt offering, in the New Testament animals were no longer used as burnt offering/ sacrifice. Jesus Christ shed His blood for our sins. My question is why is God interested in shedding of blood?

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1 John 5:8 the Spirit, the water, and the blood—and all three agree.

When Man fell, Man was Dead to God. This is a Principle we must understand to get the whole picture. All through Scripture (particularly the Old Testament), God spoke of Life in 3 Symbols of Life. 

SHOULD A LADY SPEAK UP IF SHE HAS BEEN RAPED…OR KEEP SILENT AS PEOPLE DON’T BELIEVE THOSE STORIES?

If a girl was raped as a child and now she’s grown but she still has memories of it, should she talk to her parents and fiancé about it?

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Yes. Absolutely Yes. She should talk to as many people as possible that she believes would love and encourage her. If her mum and fiancé are in her list, she should go ahead. It would relieve her a lot.

DATING ISSUES I: GOING THROUGH YOUR PARTNER’S PHONE –GOOD OR BAD?

Is it right to go through your partners chat before and during Marriage

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No, it is not wrong. But hang on a moment…

WE ARE COMPATIBLE BUT MY DAD AND MY BROTHER HAS AN ISSUE WITH MY GUY’S DAD

What does a lady do when she is in love with a guy she’s very much compatible with but her dad and her dad’s first son is against the relationship because they are not pleased with the guy’s father.

The lady refuses to let go so they have started denying her benefits and support.

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Well…this sister needs to be prayerful. I mean it has to be her lifestyle and she needs to do it more in this season of her life.

She should always remember to rest in God this season because panicking is her worse enemy really at this time. She should remember that if God "really" gave her this guy, He will keep him for her...and there is no “gra-gra” that will take that away.

CAN LOVE TURN INTO HATRED

Can Love really turn to Hatred? Can you love someone and when the person does something wrong you just hate the person?

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Love is mentioned at different times, for different reasons in the bible. At different times in the new testament alone, we are reminded to love, forgive and so on. On like any other virtue, Love is selfless, so it needs a lot of effort from us (e.g praying, being alert etc)

Looking at the Characteristics of Love, we see that it's something that needs constant attention; reminder; even renewal and ofcourse effort.

IS IT RIGHT FOR COUPLES TO STILL PASSWORD THEIR PHONES AFTER THEIR INTRODUCTION?

Is it right for couples to still protect the privacy of their phones with passwords or keys even after their Introduction Ceremony?

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Really even before Introduction, couples ought to have started practicing how to treat each other in Marriage (minus sex). Having said that, having access to your partners phone isn't and shouldn't be a big deal...I mean you guys are supposed to literally share your financial status with each other openly (I am not talking having joint account or accounts talk here) I am talking about amount what you make, financial increase etc...

You're supposed to be naked and unashamed in every sense of the word.

DOES GOD LOVE BOTH BELIEVERS AND UNBELIEVERS?

My question is does God love both the believer and the unbeliever?


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The Bible says in Matthew 5:45 that God makes the sun to rise on both the good and bad people. And He sends rain for those who do right and the one who does wrong.

That's quite explanatory...You wouldn't send rain on your enemies without God helping you would you?

Still God does it effortlessly like it is normal. Because it is normal to him....He loves and accepts everyone because he created everyone in His image.They just got deceived by the evil one.