Saturday, 17 September 2016

SHOULD A LADY SPEAK UP IF SHE HAS BEEN RAPED…OR KEEP SILENT AS PEOPLE DON’T BELIEVE THOSE STORIES?




If a girl was raped as a child and now she’s grown but she still has memories of it, should she talk to her parents and fiancé about it?

Answers


Yes. Absolutely Yes. She should talk to as many people as possible that she believes would love and encourage her. If her mum and fiancé are in her list, she should go ahead. It would relieve her a lot.

Again, your fiancé is your best friend not your friend from afar that you're trying to watch; you should have done all the watching & praying before you entered the relationship –so tell him. You shouldn't hide anything as basic as that from someone who is your best friend. I am sure He would have your best interest at heart. There's no use hiding anything from anyone. If you're going to be with that person if you like tell him all your history he wouldn't leave and if you're not going to be with that person if you like hide all your history it wouldn't work.

Love is vulnerable. So you can't say I would be in love 50:50, you give yourself 100% obviously minus sex.

You must start practicing the life of trust you want to see in your Marriage right from your courtship period. You practice the things you want to see and do in your marriage before marriage not after or during marriage.

Success involves Pre-planning and Pre-working.

She can also be led to a Therapist or she can also find one herself. The essence of a therapist is to help heal her fully; so she can add that to her list of talking to her parents and her fiancé as it makes her feel better.

Sin and Bondage strives in secrecy but there is something and everything about opening up to the right people. As long as her parents wish her well and love her and her fiancé loves God and loves her –not one unserious guy that isn’t purposeful about life- then she can go ahead on these conditions.

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