HOW DO YOU IDENTIFY A MARRIED MAN?

Most men are not trustworthy these days. So may I know how I can identify a married man from an unmarried man?

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It should be a life goal for every man and every woman to grow in God! See if you haven't once in your relationship with God sensed or perceive something wrong that seems right, maybe a job decision, or a transportation route, or even as simple as a salon to go to, then detecting someone who’s lying about his marital status may be difficult for you to sense.

CAN I LEAVE MY FIANCE FOR MY OLD FLAME WHO RETURNS AFTER YEARS OUT OF REACH??

Is it right for a lady to leave her fiance for an old flame that returns after years because she loves him?

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This lady needs to leave the relationship alone first, then go and pray to God on what his plans are for her and get full clarity. God that created the Heavens and the earth and knows the beginning from the end is the only one that can help her.

Emotions are never cut it. Emotions come and go. It is by what the intent for that relationship or marriage really is.

MY GUY IS YOUNGER THAN ME. IS THAT COOL?

Can I date a guy I am older than?

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The reason why this is a challenge to women is because naturally we measure wisdom, depth etc in age which is true actually in some people's case anyways.

This is a good challenge and every lady in this situation has to and is supposed to be very sure. I am not going to come with an age-is-just-a-number approach, because whoever a lady wants to get married to must be  reasonable, wise, responsible  just to mention a few.

So here is what you should really ask...

MY GUY’S FAMILY HAVE A PROBLEM WITH WHERE I AM FROM. WHAT DO I DO?

I and my guy love each other. We have introduced each other to our parents and my family loves him, however, his have an issue with where I am from. What do I do?

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Conviction between a couple entering into a relationship is very important as it will keep them during rocky times. There would be rocky times in any relationship especially the one ordained by God.

Practically and not too talk too much, what they really need to do is to keep praying while *persisting* on their request to their parents. Remember that woman in the bible that wore the judge out by always begging and pleading with him to give her justice? Eventually he did!

MASTURBATION: Some things you need to know part II

This is the continuing post about Masturbation. If you missed the part I, read it here

Many people begin masturbation for many reasons, but whatever the reason is, none is justifiable.

The main reason or one of the main reasons for masturbation is emptiness, wanting/desiring pleasure, abused and feeling filthy, low self-esteem, loneliness and the lists goes on.

One of the Solution to Masturbation would be proper understanding and growing knowledge in the word of God coming to Know Him, get filled up by Him and the things that concern him and lose appetite for those things that do not please him.

It is as simple as that.

MASTURBATION: Some things you need to know part I

There are some things that need to be known about Masturbation. I will be discussing about it in two posts. This post and the next.

For this post, please kindly read on to understand more on this subject.

Masturbation is caused by the void in a person that has not been filled. One could be introduced to it through peer pressure, or one could stumble upon it. Whatever the case is, the void and emptiness in every human will be filled by something.

WEIRD?! MY LADY FRIEND ALWAYS CHANGES HER MIND AT THE LAST MINUTE. IS THERE SOMETHING STRANGE TO IT?

I have a close friend I have known for quite a while. There's this attitude she has that I want to be sure about and I really want to understand. At the last minute she changes her mind about *ANYTHING* and I seriously mean anything. Do we think there's possibly a force that drives her to do these things because it’s so so bad -she changes everything, everything at the last minute?

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The way you asked this question, she seems to be living a normal life aside from this her strange behavior.  At least you didn't mention any other thing, so I am assuming that.

That means she is not insane (Thank God for that).

She may be doing this as a result of

1.       A certain disorder. (Like Maureen Suggested)

2.       She may be behaving that way as a result of something from her past or childhood that she *may* still be afraid of.

WHAT ARE THE PROS AND CONS OF BEING AN “INDEPENDENT LADY”

Here it goes, “being an independent lady, what are the pros and cons?” Is it wise or not for a lady to adopt Independence both financially and every way?

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Without God we can do nothing. While Jesus was here on earth He kept saying He does only what the father tells him.

Where am I going to with this?

MY GUY FLASHES ME BECAUSE OF HIS FINANCIAL ISSUES. IS IT OKAY TO “ALWAYS” RETURN HIS CALLS

If a guy hardly calls due to some financial issues and flashes you anytime he wants to talk to you. Is it okay to “always” return his calls?

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I don't know how you guys met or whatever the case is. But in all this, if it's only the girl doing the calling then it doesn't pass the right message. Besides, I cannot fully answer this question.

What kind of Financial challenge?

MY GUY’S SURNAME IS MAKING ME UNABLE TO PRAY

You are asked to go and pray about a guy and later hear his surname which discourages you from praying. What do you do?

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Surname shouldn't be a big deal.

You and Your husband to be are forming another family, so changing name if you two agree can be easily done.

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HOW DOES BEING INDEPENDENT MEAN SELFISH?

I would like to know how being independent translates to mean that one is selfish.

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If we have the right mindset from start, this would not be a question.

The “me myself and I” thing from singleness is what people carry to their marital home and expect some magic to take it away. So the answer is don't have the *mentality* whether you're 30 and unmarried or 45 and unmarried.

CAN I DATE MY EX’S BEST FRIEND EVEN AFTER BREAKING UP A LONG TIME AGO

Is it proper to date one’s ex’s best friend after they have broken up for years.

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Well I wouldn't talk too much here as this i believe needs a straight forward answer.

*After years*

If that Ex's best friend happened to be your own spouse? What if He has been the one but you just decided to not be sensitive therefore you went round and round and still came back to him?

IS ONLINE DATING/MARRIAGE A BAD IDEA?

What’s your take on online dating? Can you get married to someone you met online? If yes, state your reasons and if no, state your reasons.

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Misuse of a thing is what we call *abuse*

The Internet can actually be used greatly or abused. The problem why there's so much hatred for online meeting is because of the abuse by the people involved.

How can you meet someone online and begin to think that they love you just like that?

That's the problem. You can meet, date and get married without trying to get to know each other face to face for one year at least.

I'M UPSET AT THIS GUY WHO KEEPS LYING UNNECESSARILY AND TRYING TO DOUBLE-DATE WITH ME. WHAT DO I DO?

There is this guy I met in service year. He was asking me out for a while but I didn't take him serious because he jokes a lot. After a while, I noticed he and another lady I know were kinda too close beyond normal friendship but he kept asking me out. I shunned him. After service year, he proposed marriage to me and asked me to pray about it, I refused to cos I told him He was in a relationship with the other lady, he denied it even till on Saturday . Just yesterday, I confirmed from the lady that they're in a relationship, she said they were.

Now, I'm upset at the whole deceit game the guy has been playing.

What should I do?

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First, you have to make sure that you don't allow yourself to breed hatred on your inside no matter what [according to 2Cor 7.1] or contaminate you

At this point, you can do the following…

IS IT GOOD/NORMAL TO FLAUNT ONE’S PARTNER ON SOCIAL MEDIA

I would like to know if it’s good to flaunt one’s partner on social media. And when I say partner, I mean partners in a relationship and not married partners.

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On this topic or question, it really depends on what you and your partner value and see as priority. Before Social Media came especially I.G., people have been surviving in relationships. So with or without it, relationships will rise and relationships will fall.

I am just trying to say...this is one of the topics that we cannot necessarily give a one way answer to.