IS IT LOVE OR LUST?

How do you know when someone loves you or lusts after you?

COULD SOMEONE JUST TELL ME IF LADIES PUTTING ON TROUSERS IS RIGHT OR WRONG? PART II

This is the concluding part of the post about trousers.

If you missed it, read it here...

This is the concluding part of the question: “If putting on trousers outside church or any Christian gathering is the right thing to do, then why is it frowned upon when worn to church?  OR Does it mean my putting on trousers and sitting down on the altar make the altar unholy?”

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If you missed the first part, read here

Now having read and understood the first part, I am going somewhere. It is obvious that God isn't talking about the kind of trousers that women wear today.

1. They didn't exist in those days

2. These trousers are made for women!!!

COULD SOMEONE JUST TELL ME IF LADIES PUTTING ON TROUSERS IS RIGHT OR WRONG? PART I

If putting on trousers outside church or any Christian gathering is the right thing to do, then why is it frowned upon when worn to church?  OR Does it mean my putting on trousers and sitting down on the altar make the altar unholy?

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I have divided the post in two parts in order to ensure that I cover all that I believe should be covered.

Since it's a church setting let me start with what she may have had in mind

HE WANTS TO BRING HIS MOTHER TO “STAY INDEFINITELY” JUST 2 WEEKS INTO OUR MARRIAGE. I THINK I’M ABOUT TO LOSE MY MIND. WHAT DO I DO?

How will you handle a situation where your husband makes a proposal to invite his mum over to stay with you both (with no specific time of returning) barely two weeks after your wedding?

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Hmmmm…… I am glad the topic says "proposal", not that she has already appeared to the house.

I HAVE A SECRET. I WANT TO REVEAL IT AND I DON'T WANT TO REVEAL IT COS I MIGHT LOSE HIM. WHAT DO I DO?

Is it good to reveal ones past to her fiancé all in the name of being sincere even when you know there's an 80% probability of him leaving you?'

What I mean is that I am already in the relationship but there's an assurance he will leave because of my past which I want to reveal to him. However, I need to tell him to build trust and sincerity in your relationship.

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Transparency is going to be one of the top feature of a flourishing relationships whether marriage or friendship kind of relationship.

Having established that, you cannot withhold information from someone just to keep them, that's very wrong especially when they're already in the pre-marriage stage.

Tell him all, because you love God and want to do what's right not because of any earthly reason at all.

AS A LADY; CAN I STILL GO OUT WITH MY MALE FRIENDS NOW THAT I’M IN A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP? Part II

This is the concluding part to the question of if a lady in a serious relationship can go out on casual “nothing-attached” outings with her male friends.

You can read the Part I here

So…here goes the concluding answers

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I mustn’t forget to add that if there's no special thing happening e.g. birthday, anniversary, meetings etc. You have no business saying yes to just a "casual date". I am just reiterating that your boyfriend is capable enough and you should be busy with God's purpose. If these two things are intact, you can't –I promise- have time for "once in a blue moon casual outings without purpose"

DID GOD COMMAND LADIES TO USE SCARVES TO CHURCHES AND RELIGIOUS PLACES? PART I

This question is about whether or not it is mandatory or has been commanded by God for ladies to use scarves or cover their heads to church or any Christian gathering

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To be honest I didn't know how I was going to start this topic because it is broad, I mean very very broad, so I would actually only be scratching the surface today as this teaching has many parts that 

we can actually explore as time goes on here in the WONDIVA community.

So the basics

1 Corinthians 11:5

“And any woman who [publicly] prays or prophesies (teaches, refutes, reproves, admonishes, or comforts) when she is bareheaded dishonors her head (her husband); it is the same as [if her head were] shaved.” (THE AMPLIFIED BIBLE)*

MY HUSBAND IS REJECTING A WEDDING GIFT GIVING TO US BY MY EX? WHAT SHOULD I DO? THE GIFT IS A CAR!!

Your Ex gives you an expensive car as a Wedding Gift and your Husband says he doesn’t want the gift? What should I do?

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The man is now her head; at least the term uses "Husband" so If he says No it is No.

Besides for that gift to be collected, the guy giving the gift should or would have to be the Husband's friend so that it is like a family acceptance and a family gift. Because like it or not, men have Ego and no man wants to genuinely see "another man" buy his ‘baby’ a car let alone an Ex that's even worse.

I’M NO LONGER COMFORTABLE AT MY JOB ‘CAUSE MY MARRIED BOSS IS ‘LIKING’ ME. I DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO. I DON’T WANT TO QUIT MY JOB BECAUSE I LOVE MY JOB.

I know a lady. She just got this job and her boss is extremely nice. According to her, his niceness is too good to be true. She has never had a bad day working there. Recently it happened that the boss kind of asked her out. She politely said No and he said no problem cos he's a married man. Now, the problem is that she doesn't feel as free as she was before he asked her out. And she also doesn't want to quit cos she loves her job. What do you guys think?

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Sadly this whole married boss affair thing still happens and I empathize with the lady. I understand when she says she isn't so free anymore...I mean it's just weird...

Working with someone you know likes you yet is married. Doesn’t get “weirder” than that, does it?