WEIRD?! MY LADY FRIEND ALWAYS CHANGES HER MIND AT THE LAST MINUTE. IS THERE SOMETHING STRANGE TO IT?

I have a close friend I have known for quite a while. There's this attitude she has that I want to be sure about and I really want to understand. At the last minute she changes her mind about *ANYTHING* and I seriously mean anything. Do we think there's possibly a force that drives her to do these things because it’s so so bad -she changes everything, everything at the last minute?

Answers

The way you asked this question, she seems to be living a normal life aside from this her strange behavior.  At least you didn't mention any other thing, so I am assuming that.

That means she is not insane (Thank God for that).

She may be doing this as a result of

1.       A certain disorder. (Like Maureen Suggested)

2.       She may be behaving that way as a result of something from her past or childhood that she *may* still be afraid of.

Whatever it is that is wrong with her, it is internal and you cannot understand if you are trying to fix it from just the behavior or actions.

You could ask her questions to really dig deeper into the genesis of this problem.

Also she can visit a Therapist, Mental Health Specialist or Psychologist. These people can help her with this challenge. If she's ready I would gladly link her up with experts in these fields.

Meanwhile asking her, studying her, sometimes staying with her when she takes the decision e.g. staying back with her if she stays back (depending on the case) can help you get closer to discovering the root cause of her challenges.

If she sees you really care, she may open up on why she takes those decisions. You may not have the solution but discovering the challenge is a step in problem solving.

●Empathize with her; this will make her open up a bit to you

●Only when she truly opens up, then you can suggest the therapy option.

●As much as you can don't try to look at her or treat her too strangely so it minimizes awkward feelings or shame.

●Love her/Pray for her/Treat her like a friend that you take her as.

contributed by Nkechi Chiazor

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