Can I date a guy I am older than?
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The reason why this is a challenge to women is because
naturally we measure wisdom, depth etc in age which is true actually in some
people's case anyways.
This is a good challenge and every lady in this situation
has to and is supposed to be very sure. I am not going to come with an
age-is-just-a-number approach, because whoever a lady wants to get married to
must be reasonable, wise,
responsible just to mention a few.
So here is what you should really ask...
1) Am I going to really view this man as an Authority over
me?
That is, you are 30 and he is 23, so will you view him as
that? Will you even respect him? This question will cover the age gap. However
for balance sake it will be reasonable that a lady doesn't go lower than 3 years
in Courting a Man just for this balance sake.
As much as age is just a number,
you should go according to what your heart can work with and really respect,
not just what a counselor says. So if you can view him as an authority over
you, you can go ahead but please don't marry your child (someone you can give
birth to) all in the name of something that for one is no longer true. That is
just lust and vice versa with guys.
2) Is he mature?
Not in physique and money. Spiritually, is he mature? He
must show fruits, He must exhibit things that a fatherly figure should, because
that's who he will become to you anyways
3) Is God saying yes?
After general talk and counsel, please go back to God. What
is he saying? Before you were born he knew you and formed you, He is the one
that can tell you the exact truth, that's why you must have a tight
relationship with him before marriage comes.
So get that and be at peace. Peace is the Umpire that will
guide us, the Bible says. So make sure you are at peace with God not just
people's opinions.
*So is it Right or Wrong*
It can be done in the Right way...Following God; marrying
someone 'reasonably' below your age
&
It can be done in the Wrong way by.....Rushing in because of
time, marrying someone you can give birth to, or agreeing to marry and not
respecting the Man at all or bossing him around.
If you ever find yourself here and you say yes, make sure
you are ready to treat this person like your *Father*(Loving respectful way; I
am not saying father in a way where you have no say, not at all; I mean give
him all honour just like him) If you look at this guy and you can't do that,
don't even waste your time, or his.
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